One of the things that I’ve had to work the hardest at changing about myself is the stories I tell myself. It’s the stories we tell ourselves that create the life we exist in. It’s the stories we tell ourselves that limit what we’re capable of achieving, when they’re limiting stories. If I wanted to have a different life, I had to be willing to let go of the stories and beliefs that kept me securely tied to the life I was living.
Stories like; “I’m not good enough, I’m not pretty enough, I’m not thin enough, I’m not worthy, I am angry, I am tired and sleep deprived.” Those kinds of stories, I had a full page of them to work through as I started my coaching with Steve Hardison, my stories were the first thing on his agenda. It was brutal and hurtful to look at them as I wrote them down one by one in my coaching journal. To see on paper how I thought about myself in so many different and limiting ways, hurt my feelings, it was sad to see, heartbreaking. To see how I was treating myself as the words and statements stared right back at me was painful. It’s not healthy to have those stories about myself, it certainly doesn’t serve me or the people closest to me. That’s for sure.
It was several weeks at intensely walking through and challenging each and every one of these stories that I was able to create new stories for myself. Stories much more true to who and what I really am that can lead me to being more of myself in that regard. Good stories meant to remind me and inspire me, vs the limiting stories that kept me stuck and comfortable. It’s not always easy to let go of the stories that feel as comfortable as a nice warm sweater on a cold and crispy day. Stepping outside of what’s comfortable is never easy, but it’s necessary when growth is the goal. I always seem to find the greatest parts of myself in the growth which usually comes with difficult discomfort. The greater the discomfort, the greater the growth. I’m betting you’ve experienced the same in your own life.
So, what are the stories you’re telling yourself that lead to your not living the greatest expression of yourself? I’d love to help you write a new story for yourself after challenging the story you currently have. Let’s play with your stories, I’m game, are you?
The video has more about my stories in a talk I did about my old stories and how I healed from them on Facebook Live. I hope it helps you to rid yourself of any self limiting stories you’re holding on it. You’re invited to connect with me on Facebook!
Much Love and Many Blessings,